I wonder myself, how can we really ever know where someone is coming from? People say it is importante to listen, but how can you listen if nothing is beeing said?In a relationship, do we have the right to remain in silent?
As children, we are thought to express ourselves, we are thought to use our words, to be specific, and not to assume that others know how we feel. Because the truth is, it takes us saying things aloud to know what we need, to know what we feel ourselves.
As adults, there are those times when words fail us. In times like these, we put our words away, and show how we feel, because actions speak lauder than words.
And that is saying a lot.
Eu me pergunto, como podemos saber realmente de onde alguém está vindo? As pessoas dizem que é importante ouvir, mas como se pode ouvir, se nada está sendo dito? Será que, em um relacionamento, nós temos o direito de permanecer em silêncio?
Quando crianças, nós somos ensinados a nos expressar. Somos ensinados a usar as palavras, a sermos específicos, e a não assumir que outras pessoas sabem como nos sentimentos. Porque a verdade é que, Às vezes, precisamos dizer as coisas em voz alta para saber do que precisamos, para entender como nós nos sentimentos.
Quando adultos, há aquelas vezes em que as palavras nos falham. em horas assim, nós deixamos as palavras de lado, e mostramos como nos sentimos. Porque ações falam mais do que palavras.
E isso é dizer muito.
Words are, like any other kind of communication humans tried do make, limited.
To a child, that must express relatively simple feelings, it suffices and also helps a lot to understand itself. But as ideas grow more and more complex, the need for more elaborate and specific communication forces us to use other kinds of language…
All careers have already passed through this phase in their development, so that you can see that each one has a thousand specific terms that take you a lifetime to learn and master – so that you can communicate with little margin of misunderstanding. But what can be made of relationship languages — possibly the most complex of them all?
Will we be forced to study four years of human relationship specific vocabulary so that we can academically avoid some of those problems? I don’t think so.. =)
So, we make up with what we have already. Body language, imitation of known/iconic characters, intimate power games and all that jazz…
Kinda makes a lot of room for misunderstanding, but… oh well, we’re still a developing race, aren’t we?
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